Blogging Rules I Won’t Obey

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Hello darlings.
A while back I wrote a post about my new blogging rules. And today I’m going to tell you about some blogging rules I won’t obey. Not because they are totally bad advises or that I think that they can’t work. It’s just they just aren’t for me.

If you hang around in the same Facebook groups as me, or have ever browsed Pinterest for blogging tips you have probably read these so-called rules at least once. Often they are preceded by the words “To have a successful blog you have to”. Well I don’t know how they define success, but for me knowing that the amount of people reading my blog is slowly increasing is more than enough. And that is happening even though I won’t obey these blogging “rules”.

Blogging rules I won't obey

Blogging Rules I Won’t Obey

Position yourself as an expert.
This is the rule that I have the absolute hardest to grasp. I can understand that this might be a good idea if you have a blog about marketing or even clean eating. But when it comes to lifestyle blogs or fashion blogs I don’t even understand how to do it, and even less why.
I mean I want my readers (that means you lovely ones) to be able to relate to me. I want them to come back because the feel some kind of connection to me. Not because the see me as an expert in some way. Besides the only thing I canΒ say that I really excel in are eating stuff and spending money. But if you want I can probably teach you how to do that.

Fake it till you make it.
I think that writing your posts as if someone is reading them even when it feels like no one is are a good thing. But other than that I’m not that fond of the whole ‘fake it till you make it’ mentality. And that goes both for the amount of followers a blogger have as well as their blog posts. I think that if you’re blog is good enough and you put your stuff out there the readers and followers will come in time. So I won’t do any kind of follow for follow just so it can look like I have more readers than I have. And I will most certainty not go out and buy a lipstick with my last money to make it look like I have more money than I have.
So I won’t fake it till I make it, and if I ever make it won’t be because I ever faked being someone who I’m not.

You need to have a niche.
I tried to niche down once since I was told it would make it easier to come up with things to write about if I did. It lasted for a week.
Right now I write pretty much whatever I can think of. But my goal is to have a main focus on fashion/personal style mixed up with some makeup and mental health posts, and maybe even some more posts about blogging. Not really a niche of any kind but I still hope that it can get me somewhere.

Over to you; Which blogging rules are you willing to disobey?

XOXO

42 Comments

  1. Food for thought.

    As you have rightly stated, there are many rules surrounding blogging. Everyone offers advice from their perspective which can leave you feeling pulled here, there and everywhere.

    I do not have hundreds of followers and I have been blogging for over a year. I am sometimes in awe at how successful/popular some bloggers are. I still feel fairly invisible.

    However, I love to write and will continue to do so – in a way that expresses me making my blog authentic.

    Keep up the great work!

  2. Loved this, Ida! I actually have a similar post sitting in my drafts at the moment. I find the blogging world a bit crazy sometimes. Who made these ‘rules’ anyway?! The whole point of blogs in the first place was to have a little bit of the internet to call your own, and express yourself however you want to.

  3. These invisible rules are so silly and are what breeds insecurity! It’s hard when you’re starting off not to feel like the ‘odd one out’ or silly about your writing but thankfully the Twitter blogger community is largely super supportive!x

    oneandthesame.co.uk

  4. This is the exact reason why I restarted my blog! I felt like I was trying to portray only part of myself in order to attract a specific type of reader and the rest of my personality was falling through the cracks.
    After awhile, my old blog became stale and I lost all inspiration. I threw caution to the wind and began anew – and have no regrets so far!

    Beth at thenerdwifeslife.wordpress.com

  5. Love this, for the honest no-BS approach to the subject. And I definitely am on your side of these ‘rules’.
    It always baffled me why people fake a life for the web, isn’t it, after all, their life? I don’t even want to consider ‘faking’ my life, because after 10 years I would look around and realize that literally nothing is ‘mine’…it’s a scary thought that keeps me writing solely about what I really, truly, am and love.

  6. Find your niche, I can’t even find my keys!! I can’t possibly pick ONE thing and only write about that forever. Boring!!!

    Great post πŸ™‚ Nice meeting you on the Facebook group πŸ™‚

  7. Fergus Healy

    Hi Ida.
    I seem to be the only bloke that reads these blogs but what the hell, I enjoy them, so who cares. You’re so right in what you say about the rules of the game. The bloggers who follow these so called rules take all the personal touch away from it. They read just like an advertisement and the more professional they get the less I want the read them. Like you say, how can they write about lifestyle, about health if it has to conform to rules. Mental health doesn’t follow rules, it makes its own. So good luck to you and your fellow blogging rule breakers, as you give people like me a true insight into other people’s lives and make me appreciate that mine isn’t as bad as I sometimes think. You write from the heart.
    Regards
    Fergus

  8. I agree with the second two. Especially the niche – I write about anything and everything. That’s why I started to blog in the first place, to be able to write stuff down.
    I think there are some people who can say they’re experts – doctors and the like, people who’ve studied a subject for years and years. For me, I’m not saying I’m an expert but sharing my experiences of something I know a lot about in that someone might understand me or themselves better though it.

    • Ida

      Yes of course some people really are experts. But when everyone are going to be experts at whatever they choose to write about it gets a bit weird. Thanks for reading and giving me your thoughts. XO

  9. I completely agree with the niche one! I tried that and it lasted about a week for me too! I then went through a process of writing whatever I felt about. Then this became a niche anyway because I realised I was writing about a certain topic anyway! By limiting myself at the start it took a lot longer for me to find out the way I wanted my blog to be!

    • Ida

      Yes I think that’s true for me too. I have realised that there are some topics I can come up with various things to write about so thanks to that people will still know what to expect from this blog I hope. XO

  10. I love this post! I don’t have a niche either, I like the freedom of being able to post whatever I want. Life is more than just one category!

    I don’t obey the rules of having polished photography either. I try and get some nice shots and sometimes they look great but sometimes they’re average. Blogging has to come after full time work and part time postgrad study for me so I’d rather post about what made me want to write as it happens, rather than in three weeks’ time when I’ve had time to set up perfectly lit photographs!

    Michelle -x-

  11. So true. Although these tips can give good advice. Everyone is different and what might work for some may not another. You should do what is right for you. I mean it is YOUR blog after all πŸ™‚ x

  12. You need to have a niche. Yep, that’s a hard one, especially if you have a humor-type blog. SEO? Impossible. There is NO way anyone that I think would be my targeted readers would find me through keywords. I’m still SO excited anytime a stranger subscribes. That is my high.

  13. Courtney

    I don’t follow these rules either. I blog because I enjoy it, so I’ve learned to ignore the “rules” that suck the fun out of blogging for me. Besides, there are so many rules that it’s not humanly possible to follow them all, even if blogging is your full-time job. I personally think the niche/expert rule is so ridiculous because when I follow blogs that are only about one topic, I get bored real quick. I like getting to know the person behind the blog, flaws and all and I like reading their thoughts on different things.

    – Courtney
    courtneylthings.blogspot.com

  14. Ah these are great – I’m just starting out and starting to realise how expensive all this could become, it’s scary!

    And my rule would be to disregard rules altogether. I decided to start a blog because I wanted to write about things I enjoy, and it’s supposed to be a fun project for me. Not a full time job!

    Clare x

    http://www.ruthandclare.com

  15. I totally agree with you! Blogging is supposed to be fun and bring us joy and creative output. Don’t get why so many bloggers are following these rules. Who even made them? Do what you love and people will love you for that.

    My blog doesn’t have a large following, but I don’t even care. I do it for myself and the rest will follow later.

    HIGH 5!
    thisissimplyme.com

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